Recently I asked a few people, friends in general...one question: are you happy? The answers were mostly "no, or not entirely". Of course I asked them to share with me the "why" to their somewhat incompleteness. (Let me stress that these are about 14 completely different men and women between the ages of 22-36 varying from middle class to the working poor class.)
Although different, the reasons remained the same; everyone felt unfulfilled, unaccomplished and not working towards their goals. One thing that caught my attention was that they all (all of them) compared where they were to where a friend/someone their age range is now and how "successful" these friends currently are. I quoted the word successful because in this world, the only success we acknowledge is the one which can be counted in dollars or the one we can broadcast online or on tv. So what happens to those of us who can't show off our idea of personal success? Those of us who can't put in words or share in pictures something intangible? Does this mean we should invalidate our goals, who we are and what makes us happy in order to work tirelessly towards something which does not really align with our higher self?
Not only do we need to stop looking for (most times shallow) "I'm proud of you" from others but we desperately need to say it to ourselves and mean it. Someone's success is his/her personal journey; comparison is draining, let it inspire you instead of bringing you down. We all came here with tools to achieve our purpose...use them!!! And if you think you lost them, improvise!
Oh and one last thing, whatever is done in genuine love is done absolutely well...